Q: Me and my fiance are both 21 years old. He loves to have sex all the time, but I really don’t care for it all the time. What can I do to boost my sex? ~In Need Of A Boost~
A: Greetings
This is a tough question to answer without knowing the origin of your low sex drive as compared to your Fiance's. The issue here is, some people DO have a lower sex drive than others that really isn't a "problem" so to speak. Some couples find themselves in love but with differing sex drives. This isn't a problem unless no compromise or middle ground can be met.
There are also other reasons one can have a low sex drive that may be due to several things like, psychological problems, especially depression, bad eating habits (your body is struggling from not being fed correctly), stress, and many more issues. My thoughts on that would be for you to try to solve those problems. With them solved, the "symptoms" of those issues should disappear.
Another factor may be that you are not in tune with your sexual self. Do you carry any shame or embarrassment with sex? If so, that will often put a damper on your drive as well. Your sexual self often is a part of you, nurtured by you and no one else. It means feeling sexy to yourself. When you feel sexy to yourself, that often translates to your lover and will heighten your sex drive as well.
Then there is the lover factor. Is your Fiance satisfying you during sex? That IS important.You can't expect your sex drive to be too high when your lover is bad in bed. If he isn't satisfying you, is it something you can talk about with him? If it is, great, you both can learn a lot from each other and make a wonderful experience of it. If not, you have a lot to think about and consider. He may get better with age and practice. Maybe not.
Are you bad in bed? That is also something to think about. Do your skills or lack of them make you not want to have sex? If so, there are many resources that will teach you different techniques and all about the male body and yours! Starting right here on this site! There are also very very helpful sexual instructional videos as well. There is always hope when you lack sexual skills and it will give you more confidence and energy about having sex.
Wish I knew more about the problem. I think I could be more helpful but I do hope this response helps in some way.
Sincerely,
Tressa!
This is a tough question to answer without knowing the origin of your low sex drive as compared to your Fiance's. The issue here is, some people DO have a lower sex drive than others that really isn't a "problem" so to speak. Some couples find themselves in love but with differing sex drives. This isn't a problem unless no compromise or middle ground can be met.
There are also other reasons one can have a low sex drive that may be due to several things like, psychological problems, especially depression, bad eating habits (your body is struggling from not being fed correctly), stress, and many more issues. My thoughts on that would be for you to try to solve those problems. With them solved, the "symptoms" of those issues should disappear.
Another factor may be that you are not in tune with your sexual self. Do you carry any shame or embarrassment with sex? If so, that will often put a damper on your drive as well. Your sexual self often is a part of you, nurtured by you and no one else. It means feeling sexy to yourself. When you feel sexy to yourself, that often translates to your lover and will heighten your sex drive as well.
Then there is the lover factor. Is your Fiance satisfying you during sex? That IS important.You can't expect your sex drive to be too high when your lover is bad in bed. If he isn't satisfying you, is it something you can talk about with him? If it is, great, you both can learn a lot from each other and make a wonderful experience of it. If not, you have a lot to think about and consider. He may get better with age and practice. Maybe not.
Are you bad in bed? That is also something to think about. Do your skills or lack of them make you not want to have sex? If so, there are many resources that will teach you different techniques and all about the male body and yours! Starting right here on this site! There are also very very helpful sexual instructional videos as well. There is always hope when you lack sexual skills and it will give you more confidence and energy about having sex.
Wish I knew more about the problem. I think I could be more helpful but I do hope this response helps in some way.
Sincerely,
Tressa!
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